I can remember a time where I desperately wanted to be where I am today.
I constantly thought about what it would be like to be Coaching full time, creating my own schedule, living my days on my terms, collaborating with amazing people who wanted to make a difference, not just make a living.
I was working in a corporate job and I hated it. I felt like I was selling my soul every time I got in the car to go to work each day.
I had made some progress with my coaching, I had gotten my qualification, I was seeing clients on the side and loving every minute of it, but I still didn’t know how I was going to make it a business.
I vigorously worked after hours and through the weekend mapping out my strategy and worked through overcoming all the roadblocks along the way.
I was struggling with the fear of showing up online, doing FB lives and stories on Instagram. I worried about what people might say, strangers and friends! I thought everything had to perfect and I would second guess every step, every post and delete every story before posting it. I constantly compared myself to other Coaches that I would follow online. There were so many out there and I didn’t know if I was ever going to be able to be so well versed, speak so intelligently and be so comfortable on camera, how was I ever going to stand out?
I was so unclear on who I wanted to serve, because I loved the life coaching side, but I was doing business coaching in my corporate role and that was rewarding too. I was so confused on what type of coaching I wanted to do and what my niche would be.
Then there was one day where I was feeling especially disheartened, and I was at work and was heading into see a client for a sales call. I remember going through everything in the car with what I had to present to her and all the Business strategies to go through for her.
And when I walked in to greet her, I could see that she was quite distressed, frantic and upset.
We found a quiet place to talk and I could see that she was at the point of giving up. I felt for her.
I really liked this client, she was warm, honest and a genuinely lovely person and I hated seeing her like this.
So instead of going through all “things” I had to go through with her, I coached her instead.
I spent the time getting her back to the reason why she started the business in the first place, her real why. We uncovered the real reason why it was so important for her to make it work and what she had envisioned when she first started the business. We looked back so we could look forward.
She had stopped believing in herself and started thinking she wasn’t going to being able to turn it around and create what she wanted for her business. She was exhausted. She had been burned by some staff and was so worried about money that she had stopped sleeping. She had even stopped setting goals. She had nothing in place for where she wanted to go and she was so stuck. She was stuck feeling overwhelmed, scared of it all falling apart and she felt guilty for wanting to give up.
I shared with her the model of the brain and how we filter information and how that can shape our experience of life.
We uncovered what she was focusing on and how that created even more stress, unease
She was in such a state of stress, it was no wonder that it felt like there was no way out and she could figure out what the solution would be.
I got her to explain the situation to me without using any descriptive, emotional words.
Just the facts. And it was amazing to see her energy and her expression change instantly.
Sometimes, just shifting the way we speak and the language we use on a daily basis can shift how we feel about the problem. I had her realise that she’d overcome a similar situation in the past and realise how just focusing on what we CAN control will help her feel more in control, stop her feeling helpless, and take her power back.
At the end of our time together, she looked like a different person. I could see the light in her eyes, she seemed lighter, she was smiling and excited for the future instead of dreading it. Her language was more future focused and enthusiastic and focused on what she CAN control. I knew I had made a difference for her. We set some clear and achievable goals for her to work toward and set up a follow up session to check on her progress.
As she hugged me goodbye, and thanked me, I knew that I had to make this career in Coaching happen! Coaching is a powerful tool and I loved how it made such a difference in someone’s life! Time with this client proved to me how powerful focusing on improving our mindset can be. You can have all the tools and resources in the world, but if you don’t believe in yourself or your ability to make a change, then the tools are a waste of time.
When we follow our dreams and passions, there are going to be challenges along the way.
Roadblocks, disappointments and problems. And some of it can be completely out of our control. That’s why, being successful in business is anything but easy, but I know what it is – it’s a personal development journey.
The most important work we can do is learn to manage our mind. It’s what we can control. We can always change our mind and explore a new perspective and sometimes we need someone to help us do that.
I knew that day, that I had to do this. I was going to keep going no matter what. I wanted to make a difference. Now, reflecting on the people I have served and helped overcome challenging times in their businesses is such a gift. I have celebrated all their wins and been like a proud mumma seeing her children step into their power and show the world what they’re made of.
It’s the greatest work. I love it.
So if you are wanting to be a coach and make a difference.
Please do. The world needs more people like you.
Let’s do this!