55 – Stories we tell ourselves and how to get past them

Have you ever got to a birthday or major milestone in your life and found yourself feeling unhappy with how things have or haven’t worked out?
Have you gotten to a certain time in your business and thought you should be further ahead or be making more money ?
 
These old blueprints or old beliefs where we think we “should” be, or think we “should” have achieved something or become something, or was “supposed” to have experienced by now only cause us pain and regret, and can keep us stuck in self pity and self doubt.
 
So how do we get past them?
 
On today’s podcast, I go through a process to be able to reflect on life as it is and find a way to move forward by uncovering what’s really important in life!

Through every stage in our life we realise there are beliefs we have about what we think we should have achieved, or was supposed to have by this time in our lives and this can often be a story we have adopted from someone or something else.

This can be a place where we feel out of control, helpless and stuck in a place of suffering. This is not an ideal place to be and can leave us feeling unworthy, undeserving and useless.

It’s important that we use these milestones in life to reflect on how far we have come and uncover what is really important in our lives.

Today’s episode is all about recognizing where we have a story or old blueprint causing us pain and how to get past it.

By utilising these questions, we are able to get out of a state of negative emotion and into a place of gratitude and appreciation.

  • What am I happy about in my life right now?
  • What am I excited about in my life now?
  • What am I proud of in my life now?
  • What am I grateful about in my life now?
  • What am I committed to in my life right now?
  • Who do I love? Who loves me?

The next stage to be able to move past these old beliefs is to discover what is really important to us.

Do you know your current values?

Use this time to put your values in order – what is your top five values and how do you currently experience them in your life and how could you improve the amount of quality time you spend living into these?

Here are some Values to consider:

Health

Wealth

Freedom

Contribution

Love

Growth

Achievement/accomplishment

Creativity

Happiness

Intelligence

Honesty

Making a difference

This episode is brought to you by September’s LWYD Collective Event.

For more information check out this link – https://events.humanitix.com.au/lwyd-love-what-you-do-collective-september-event

 

53 – Productivity isn’t about doing “All the things”

How productive are you in your business? Are you happy with the results you’ve created in your business?
Would you like to take your business to the next level?

Today’s episode is all about working out the activities and where you spend your time in your business that actually produces the results and the profit you want.

What have you created?

What outcomes and solutions have you created for your clients?

How do you prioritize what is important in your business?

What activities produce the most results and how often are you doing these?

This episode was brought to you by my BUSINESS EMPOWERMENT PROGRAM, my 9 week coaching program designed to take your business to the next level.

 

 

53 – Breaking down the break up with Belinda Love

Breaking down the break up with Belinda Love

Belinda Love. Self-Love and Empowerment Coach, NLP Practitioner and ex Bachelor contestant from the 2017 (Matty J’s season) and Author of Breaking Down the Breakup.

Belinda penned her debut book, Breaking Down the Breakup- The four emotional phases you go through when dealing with heartbreak, to enable readers to cast away the negativity they harbour from past relationships, and create a clearing for a happier future while attracting genuine connected relationships. Her journey relating to love and relationships has been somewhat of a rollercoaster and after a few broken, emotionally, verbally and physically abusive relationships she arrived at the realisation as to why she was attracting this type of partner and decided to look within to find the answers.

Belinda is now devoted to inspiring and empowering people all over the world, to feel loved everyday regardless of their relationship status, and to know they are lovable even if they are single. Belinda’s purpose is to help others live a life of self-love and delivers her content all over the world via one-on-one coaching, online courses and in person seminars.

On today’s episode we discuss:

  • Belinda’s Bachelor experience – behind the scenes from last years season
  • Finding Self Love first before finding love
  • The truth behind loneliness
  • Expectation vs goals
  • Recognising your values and how to uphold them
  • Strong suits & rackets
  • The four emotional phases you go through when dealing with heartbreak
  • Discovering your blind spots
  • Learning to ask for help
  • Finding forgiveness for past relationships
  • Reigniting your feminine energy
  • Dating & Tinder profiles

 

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52 – You know you manifested that right?

Believe in what you want so much that it has no choice by to materialize. – Unknown

Every day we’re manifesting new results in our lives and not even realising we’re creating our reality with our thoughts. The law of attraction and manifesting has always been a little woo woo to me yet I have noticed that I have often manifested things in my life without realising it and yet, it has always worked out in bizarre ways.

So I wanted to look into this further to understand if there was a way I could use it to my benefit and stop manifesting the things I didn’t necessarily want in my life.

So what is the law of attraction and manifestation.

On today’s podcast, I break it down into practical steps and uncover the ways in which we are unconcsiously creating things we don’t want if we’re not careful!

 

Step 1 – Visualisation – thinking is powerful especially when we apply positive emotion to it. Society grabs our attention often in a negative way and it’s up to us to direct our attention to what we do want more of in our lives.

Step 2 – Positive and Negative Emotion – where to use it and and how

Step 3 – Contradictory thoughts – how you are manifesting the stuff you don’t want. What dream killing words we can’t help ourselves use and  what are you doing that blocks the law of attraction?

Step 4- Allow, Trust and surrender – possibly the hardest part for us control freaks.

Step 5 – Setting intentions before you transition into new segments of your life

Things I referenced:

BOOK – The Law of Attraction – Esther and Jerry Hicks

Big Magic – Elizabeth Gilbert

Tony Robbins – Priming exercise – You Tube

We are so excited to announce the next LWYD Collective Event

– with Special Guest Steph Doyle – The Soul Echoist!

Our last event was the biggest one yet, and I have a feeling this month’s event will be no different! The beautiful and kind words that came out of August’s event have truly moved me and I’m still buzzing from the high vibe of the night.

This month, we welcome a special guest speaker:

Steph Doyle -The Soul Echoist!

Steph is a photographic storyteller, life blogger, creative badass, soulful wordsmith, spiritual empath, intuitive AF and an absolute empowerment Kween!

Steph is fascinated with the power and beauty of human connection and if you have ever watched any of her Insta stories, then you will see she is unapologetically truthful, genuine, human AF and all about the inner workings of what makes us real!

Coupled with her love of deep, soul warming sharing, her passion for sharing everything and anything else – she really is a mixed bag! She’s spontaneous, open minded and struggles to keep her focus on one thing only. She wants it all and she wants to share it all, from the depths of her heart to the height of her laughter (which is also loud AF).

Her infectious energy and beautiful openness will perfectly set the scene to dive deep into mastering your inner critic at our September event!

We all have that voice inside our heads, that constant chatter, the angel and devil, telling us that we’re not good enough, skinny enough, smart enough, confident enough, worthy enough  – all the enoughs that keep us playing small and stuck in our heads.  Some people call it the ego, or the mean girl and it can either tear us down or lift us up.

When we learn to master our inner critic, we take the power back and turn that little bitch into our cheerleader.

Would you like to learn how to tame and master your inner critic, so you can step out and do the things that you’ve always wanted to do?

 Let’s learn together as we uncover the inner workings of the critic and create some powerful tools to overcome the negativity and start living our lives to the fullest.

Are you willing to come on this journey with us? Let’s go!

Grab your tickets now – HERE – https://events.humanitix.com.au/lwyd-love-what-you-do-collective-september-event

And if you haven’t joined our Private FB Group yet you can join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/266746357174068/?ref=bookmarks

 

 

51- Are you self sabotaging your own success?

Behavior is said to be selfsabotaging when it creates problems and interferes with long-standing goals. The most common selfsabotaging behaviors are procrastination, self-medication with drugs or alcohol, comfort eating, and forms of self-injury such as cutting.

The Act of destroying or damaging something deliberately so that it does not work correctly

Self Sabotage, what I believe is a response to an feeling or emotion that has become habitual when left unchecked which then becomes an un-conscious behaviour that becomes a problem.

This is why we come to believe that it is out of our control. That we “don’t know” why its happening and we cannot change it.
There is always a reason behind all action. There is always a purpose or a pay off.
Self Sabotage is also a form or buffering like over spending , over eating, drinking, spend excess time on socials or dating apps and taking drugs.
Using language like, “I don’t feel like it” or “I don’t know” because we are not willing to actually look at what is causing the reaction
What emotion are you trying to avoid? And are you willing to experience short term discomfort for long term success? We need to learn to experience and accept all the emotion, whether it be negative or positive, as this is the human experience.
We first must decide that it is something that we want to change, and be willing to look at the emotion/feeling that is causing it and then choose to accept the emotion so we can choose to override it to create the success we’re looking for.

50- Why your vision needs to be BIG.. and how to get clearer

Wow! I cannot believe I’m at episode 50!!  When I started this podcast last year, I never even thought that I would get to this milestone!  And it got me thinking… am I not thinking big enough?

It’s amazing how the universe nudges you in the right direction when you start to show up for your life and your business. I have loved recording every episode and have loved every guest I have had one and I am so excited for what is to come!!

So where could I be thinking bigger? Do you spend time thinking about what you want for your life and your business? Are you limiting yourself and playing small?

When we compare ourselves and only surround ourselves with people who are playing at the same level, we can find ourselves not even realising that we’re limiting the possiblities

So this episode is all about thinking bigger and how to get clearer on your vision!  Spoiler alert – think bigger!

As yourself what is possible? Surround yourself with the big players and open up your mind to new possibilities!

I hope you love this episode, as much as I loved recording it!  Thank you for listening!

 

Don’t forget to Write your Future Bio and Journal on your vision and do a thought download!

 

49 – This little skill will save you so much time

This little skill is one of the most important skills to master when trying be successful in your life and your business. It’s not the easiest thing to recognise when it’s happening, it can be sneaky AF but when you have the awareness around what your quitting looks like it can change the game.

 

Quitting or giving up on yourself can happen in stages… let’s have a look at each stage.

 

  1. Procrastination

Yep, it all starts with the P word. Procrastination can be a normal part of your day but when it drags out to 2-3 hours then you may want to consider if you are in need of stress relief, gaining some clarity on what you’re doing or are you in fear of the outcome?

  1. Working too hard

Taking care of yourself throughout your work day is important to stop things from escalating to burnout. Taking breaks, eating at set times to lift your energy, finishing and switching off when you said you will.

  1. Burnout

What causes burnout? Are you stressed being stressed? Busy being busy? This is where you need to recognize where you need to set some boundaries for your time and self care. Are the tasks you’re doing constantly depleting your energy or going against your values?

  1. Quitting & giving up

Are you delving into overwhelm and confusion?  When you can become aware of the stages you go through before you give up on yourself it will help you know when to change something before you give up. Are you putting things off? Feeling tired or sick? It’s so fascinating when you can uncover your patter for quitting so you know how to handle it each time you start giving up on yourself.

 

For more information on our next LWYD (Love What You Do) Collective Event for August – check out the link:

https://events.humanitix.com.au/copy-of-lwyd-love-what-you-do-collective-august-event

 

 

48 – Are these 3 words killing your dreams?

How can these three little words keep us so stuck, unresourceful and playing small, and we don’t even realise it?

Yet, we are often using them in so many contexts, and the worst part is we actually believe them.

 

  • I don’t know
  • I don’t know if I can afford that
  • I don’t know how
  • I don’t have the skills
  • I don’t have enough time

Tony Robbins once said, “It’s not the lack of resources, its your lack of resourcefulness that stops you”

 

Combating the “I don’t know” scenario, can be tricky. And it’s all about changing your thinking, from below the line to above the line thinking.

 

Understanding what drives you

  • Who needs you on top of your game?
  • What reasons keep you trying again? Why do you want to be successful in the first place?
  • Targets, achievements, accolades, supporting others,

Recognising and getting out of an un-resourceful state.

  • Change your physical and emotional state
  • Get curious
  • Ask better questions
  • Change your thinking

 

Understand and recognise what will throw you off your game and work out how to effectively deal with it ahead of time.

  • Lack of sleep
  • Lack of energy
  • Reading reviews, negative comments
  • Listening to other peoples opinions
  • Reacting to everyday negative situtations
  • Not planning your day/work

 

47 – Collaboration – The top things to consider when collaborating to grow your business

After the Collab Excursion I have been talking to a lot of my clients about the benefits of collaborating and the things to consider before, during and after collaboration. So I thought I would do a little podcast to showcase some effective ways to use collaboration in your business, what to consider before, during and after, how to reach out to people to collaborate with them.

 

Why use collaboration?

Reach new audiences

Add value to your existing audience

Help you market your offer, program or product

 

 

What to consider before:

What are my values? Consider someone who will align with your values

What is important to my audience and how can I add value here?

What do they need that I don’t offer?

Making sure the person I’m collaborating with is offering something different, so it doesn’t confuse my audience.

What benefit will there be for the person I’m collaborating with.

What expectations or guidelines do I need to outline before we collaborate?

 

What to consider during:

As much as we are collaborating to add value to your audience, making sure you also get something out of it.

Mutual collaboration – Supporting each other

We both hold up our end of the bargin

What the expectations are from each party.

 

 

What to consider After:

How to maximise the partnership.

How to further support each other – always building relationships.

 

What are some ways to collaborate?

  • FB Lives/ Instagram Lives
  • Guest blogging
  • Podcast Interviews
  • YouTube interviews
  • Pre-Launch hype – interviews
  • Guest speaking at events
  • Instagram take overs
  • Partnering in events
  • Retreats
  • Workshops
  • Gifting – Sway bags/giveaways
  • Joint Ventures – partnering together on a joint program/offering
  • Affiliate marketing

 

46 – Are you starting your day on your terms?

Recently I have been neglecting my morning routine as the weather has gotten colder and my days have gotten busier, and I have recognized the impact it has had on my days. So today I want to share the ways I set up my day for abundance and mindfulness to lift my energy and my vibration.

Are you starting your day on your terms? Are you reacting to others, to emails, social media and in turn, reacting to life in a not so positive way?

Try starting your day out on your terms and set up your day with a positive intention. I have tried these 5 things to improve my mornings, which have improved my days.

 

First thoughts of the day: Using empowering words to start the day off right – “Today is going to be amazing!”

Setting an intention: Taking 5 minutes out, maybe with a cup of tea or coffee to set an intention for how you want to feel for the day.

Mindfulness practice: Some form of mindfulness, meaning any of the below, or practicing meditation.

Move: Move your body in some way – whether that be stretching, yoga, pilates, a walk or a gym session.

Feeding your soul & body with the right foods for you: Choosing foods to empower and energise you.

Morning Automation: Decide the night before what you will have for breakfast, how you will start your day and what you will wear to keep the reserves of dopamine for the more important decisions in your  day.

Life Script – Change your mindset from scarcity to abundance. Be grateful now for what you have, and what you will receive in the future. Use inflection and powerful energy and tell the universe what you want for your life now.

 

Here are a few of the things I mentioned that enhance my mornings.

Yoga practice –https://www.youtube.com/user/yogawithadriene

I Am Affirmations :  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OqHavcUFPJU&t=2s