106 – Gratitude is a practice with Ange Simson, Founder of The Gratitude Project.

Ange Simson is an Integrative Nutrition Health & Happiness Coach, Mama of two beautiful girls, Creator of the Gratitude Gang, Health Hub and founder of The Gratitude Project.

Our conversation covers:

  • Building the practice of gratitude for a happier life
  • Being a better friend
  • Finding gratitude in daily activities
  • Wellbeing in all areas of your life
  • Dealing with comparison
  • What’s your percentage of happiness?
  • Getting to know yourself through self-awareness and using your unresourceful behaviours as opportunities for growth
  • Overcoming adversity with changing your perspective
  • Celebrating your friends creating a supportive group of friends
  • The most important ingredient in a successful business
  • Your strengths are your comfort zone

http://www.the-gratitude-project.com/

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Checkout the Youtube video Ange mentioned – Fear of females.

105 -Overthinking

Overthinking comes in three forms; ruminating about the past, worrying about the future or dwelling on a problem.

Are you a victim of overthinking? Do you make problems where there aren’t any? Do you get stuck in Analysis paralysis?

Overthinking is a repeated thought pattern that keeps us stuck and also hinders us from tapping into valuable information from the body. Today I delve into how to get out of your head, back into your body so you can stop the overthinking pattern.

Learning to tap into your heart and your intuition gives you the ability to feel the emotions designed to give us information and figure out what action steps to take to overcome the problem.

Overthinking is often a symptom of avoiding our emotions, where our brains override our hearts and try to work out what to do and how to feel. Our heart is where we fee so when we learn to tap back into our hearts we get to tap into so much more positive emotion to enhance our experience in our lives.

Some key ways to overcome overthinking are:

  • Reducing the amount of time given to overthinking (set a deadline and choose a different option – decision or action.
  • Meditation
  • Coherent breathing practice
  • Exercise
  • Creative play
  • Taking action

To find out more about mBit check out http://www.mbraining.com/

HOW SELF DOUBT IS SABOTAGING YOUR SUCCESS

Imagine if….

Imagine if you didn’t doubt yourself. Imagine if you believed in yourself so strongly that nothing felt like an obstacle? What if you knew, to your core, that you were able to overcome anything that threatened to derail you and your mission?

Self-doubt is one of the biggest causes of self-sabotage. Self Doubt stops action, momentum, stops decisions and creates a disconnect with who we really are and who we want to become.

Self Doubt blocks our intuition, our abundance, lowers our vibration and has no purpose other than to keep us safe. And the only action that comes from self-doubt and a sabotaging one.

SELF-DOUBT;
LACK OF CONFIDENCE IN ONESELF AND ONE’S ABILITIES.

If I had a dollar for every time I doubted myself or my abilities I would be a billionaire. Actually probably a trillionaire (Is that a thing?) It’s like we have this inbuild radar when we start to step outside our comfort zone and that little voice comes in and asks:

 “Are you sure you can do this? I don’t think you can. I don’t think you know what you’re doing”

That little voice of self-doubt gets louder and louder and can become so deafening that you lose the ability to hear your true inner self. It takes over and before you know it, you’re curled up into a small little ball of nerves with no ability to step into action with confidence. And just when you think you’re at your worst, that little voice whispers – “Told you, you couldn’t do it.”

It’s vicious and if we don’t learn to take our power back and quieten that little voice, we continue to sabotage our own success.

The first step in overcoming self-doubt is to become aware of when it rears it’s ugly head.

What causes it to show up? Is it certain experiences?

When you’re putting yourself out there? Speaking in public? Trying something new? Speaking your truth?

Identify the key moments and then identify it’s weapon of choice.

Is it doubt in your abilities or doubt in yourself? Or both?

Either way, that little inner critic will more than likely have a recorded sequence of questions and statements that reinforce the doubt.

As you uncover this it’s important to write them down.

Once you have them written down you want to question their origin and question their truth.

Is it really true? Is it accurate? The reason most of our negative thoughts can be so hurtful is because at some point in our lives we believed them to be true. We have evidence to back them up from all the experiences we have ever had in our lives and the belief patterns and programming we have from childhood. But this does not mean it has to be believed.

Every belief is just a thought we have thought multiple times.

The only way to stop doubting yourself is to start to believe new thoughts of self belief.

Our lack of belief in ourselves is what is causing the self doubt, so we need to drown out that inner critic and start to say and think positive, confident and empowering thoughts that will eventually replace those old negative thoughts.


I am a confident person.

I have the ability to overcome anything.

I believe in myself and my abilities.

I am a positive thinker.

I always find the positive in everything.

I am a natural action taker.

How many times have you thought these thoughts? You could probably only count how many times on one hand right?

This is because we don’t naturally walk around thinking these thoughts, we naturally fall into the trap of the negative inner critic talk.

What if you believed these words wholeheartedly?

What if you woke up every day excited to overcome any challenge, put yourself out there and know that you can achieve anything you put your mind to?

This is what self belief sounds like.

Belief in yourself and your abilities.

The more you think these thoughts the easier they will be to believe.

Write them out, say them out loud, post them everywhere you can see them, and read them every day.

Empower yourself with positive beliefs and the less time you give to the inner critic’s fear tactics, the less impact it will have.

Drown out that negative inner voice with positivity and lift yourself up with powerful thinking.

Believe in yourself and anything is possible.


One of my favorite affirmation audios is this one: Listen to this every day for 30 days and watch your self belief grow!

104- Overcoming a Scarcity Mindset

What is a scarcity mindset? A scarcity mindset is where we focus on everything that is missing in our lives, of all the things we want and don’t have, of all the ways we can’t have what we want and everything that’s lacking.

A scarcity mindset affects all areas of your life, it affects your perspective of life, it affects your happiness and joy, it affections your emotions and behaviours and our vibration and ability to manifest more abundance.

To overcome a scarcity mindset we must:

  • Learn to stop telling the scarcity story.
  • Manage your inner critic
  • Question the truth
  • Forgive and let go
  • Refocus our attention

Then use these questions as prompts to refocus your attention.

  • What has money given to you in the past? (Fight the urge to get negative here – really focus on what it HAS given you.)
  • What is it giving you now?
  • What are you taking for granted? (the simple things in life that money allows you – like electricity, wifi, food, water)
  • What opportunities does this situation give you? Really take the time to think this one through, it’s easy to focus on the lack here, but when you really look deeply, you will find opportunities that weren’t there before.
  • Create a list of options to attract more abundance. Get creative here, create a list of at least 20 options – when you think you’ve written down all the options, try for 5 more. ( I know what you’re thinking here – you can’t – well, you can – you’re just not trying hard enough)
  • What can you be truly grateful for?
  • What can I focus on that makes me feel abundant?

Taking the time to find gratitude on a daily basis is the only way to truly shift your perspective to abundance. More abundance will come the more you focus on what you do have, right now, at this moment.

OVERCOMING A SCARCITY MINDSET

When you’re stuck in a scarcity mindset it’s really hard to start thinking abundantly, even when you know it’s what could change everything for you.

There is always more, plenty, plethora, enough. Why don’t we believe this?

Sitting in a place of lack, feeling like there is a shortage of money, time, options, possibilities and stressing about all the what if’s and the lack there of’s, only creates more scarcity.

Not only do the negative thoughts create more negative thoughts, but it keeps us stuck in a place of despair, and confusion with no ladder to get yourself out of the scarcity hole.

What is a scarcity mindset? A scarcity mindset is where we focus on everything that is missing in our lives, of all the things we want and don’t have, of all the ways we can’t have what we want and everything that’s lacking.

Feels heavy doesn’t it?

It spans across all areas of our lives too. A feeling of a shortage of love, relationships, a lack of finances, options, possibilities, and abilities.

It is the opposite of abundance.

The worst part about having a scarcity mindset is that it keeps you stuck in a cycle of more lack.

This vicious cycle creates more and more lack and stops the chances of not only getting out of it but from even coming up with ideas of how to get out of it.

The only way to pull yourself out and stop the cycle, is choosing to think differently.

Choosing to focus on what you do have, not what you don’t have and that starts with asking yourself better questions.

These questions must open up more options and possibilities to see abundance.

Think about an area of your life where you know you have a scarcity mindset and apply these questions. Really take the time to unlock the abundance throughout questioning the scarcity. It’s important you take the time to really invest in answering the questions deliberately because our brains have a negative bias. This means they are wired to see the negative side of things and if we do not consciously choose to change our thinking, it will fall back into the negative pattern or cycle.

The reason we have a negative bias is that our brains are constantly on the lookout for threats to our survival, and any form of danger. We need this to be able to keep ourselves safe, this is what stops us walking out in front of traffic or walking down a dark unsafe alley. Our spidey senses ( primal brain that is wired to keep an eye out for danger) are always are on the lookout. The problem with this is, that we are not constantly in life-threatening situations so our brains can sometimes perceive judgments from others, lack of security (lack of money to keep us safe) and anything that may be a threat to our safety as danger. Unless we choose to refocus our minds to look for the positive, the negative bias can get out of control.

What you focus on is what you get, and the more you focus on what is lacking in your life the more things you will notice to complain about, stress about and freak out about. When we focus on the lack, not only does it lower our vibration to more lack, but it starts to attract more of it as well. Using these questions to refocus your attention and start focusing on the abundance that already exists in your life is a life-changing tool that will lift your vibration, give you options to move forward and a new perspective on life.

Choose an area of your life where you know you are lacking in abundance. Let’s take money for this example.

Firstly, you must first take some time to get out all the frustration, anger, blame and hurt that money has created for you.

Write a letter to money (area of your life) explaining all the hurt, anger, guilt, blame, and the frustration you have for it. Once you feel you have emptied out all of the negative reasons and emotions you feel for money, it’s time to forgive. Yes, you must forgive money for not being everything you wanted it to be and start to find appreciation for what it has given you.

Then use these questions as prompts to refocus your attention.

  • What has money given to you in the past? (Fight the urge to get negative here – really focus on what it HAS given you.)
  • What is it giving you now?
  • What are you taking for granted? (the simple things in life that money allows you – like electricity, wifi, food, water)
  • What opportunities does this situation give you? Really take the time to think this one through, it’s easy to focus on the lack here, but when you really look deeply, you will find opportunities that weren’t there before.
  • Create a list of options to attract more abundance. Get creative here, create a list of at least 20 options – when you think you’ve written down all the options, try for 5 more. ( I know what you’re thinking here – you can’t – well, you can – you’re just not trying hard enough)
  • What can you be truly grateful for?
  • What can I focus on that makes me feel abundant?

Finding ways to feel gratitude for what you have in life, and what this situation is giving you, not only changes your perspective, it lifts your vibration and makes you feel better.

Focus on the feel-good thoughts, find gratitude for what you have and watch the universe provide for you.

Taking the time to find gratitude on a daily basis is the only way to truly shift your perspective to abundance. More abundance will come the more you focus on what you do have, right now, at this moment.

Blue skies.

Clean drinking water.

The air you breathe.

Appreciate it, feel it. Feel abundant.

103 -Permission – Why you think you need it

Are you waiting for permission?

From some one or something to be able to do what you want to do, become who you want to become or say the things you want to say?

Permission isn’t handed out to people who are waiting for it. It’s given to those who demand it and take it without asking.

Why do you think we need permission?

Rules of authority or credibility? In today’s world, being an adult we must learn to create our own inner authority to find the courage and conviction to trust ourselves and give ourself permission.

Approval – Who’s approval are you looking for? Who’s did you crave as a child?

Validation from others – Having mentors and coaches are great ways to expand yourself, but be mindful that you don’t create a co-dependent relationship where you’re always looking externally for the permission to take an action.

Learning to recognize and validate yourself is how you build the inner trust to begin to give yourself permission.

Worrying about what other people think is another form of validation and it also comes back to how you view yourself, how you trust yourself and how you choose other peoples opinions above your own.

The only way to develop your inner trust is to start making decisions for yourself, back yourself 100% and if for any reason, it doesn’t work out, you also take full responsibility and learn from the experience.

When we look to others for the answers it’s easy to fail because it was never our decision in the first place – it’s a form of self-protection.

Practicing self-love is more powerful – Learn to accept and love yourself enough to back your every decision, trust your every move and give yourself the permission to fail and to succeed.

102 – Let it go with Alisha The Naughty Naturopath Mum

It’s time to let go of stress and anxiety, and our need for control so we can improve our emotional and physical health.

Alisha is a Naturopath, creator and owner of the Naughty Naturopath Mum flower essence range, blogger and mum to two young Children. Alisha loves to motivate and inspire people to keep healthy with her passion for gut health. She encourages making good choices in life, especially in the areas of food, nutrition, and emotional support such as using her flower essence remedies and keeping our stress levels down. She also likes to remind us that no-one is perfect and we often need to make mistakes to learn and occasionally be a bit ‘naughty’! She believes that having fun in life and striving for your form of balance are the most important things to achieve for our emotional and physical health.  

Our conversation covers all this and more:

  • Strengthening your Emotional Health
  • Managing stress and anxiety in a natural way
  • Raising your vibration with Flower Essences
  • The importance of sleep
  • Knowing your emotions
  • Understanding yourself more
  • Willingness to let go
  • Setting healthy boundaries
  • Finding Joy
  • Managing our inner dialogue
  • Fast lessons through business growth
  • Setting your day up well

Check out Alisha’s Sleep blog – http://bit.ly/nnmsleep
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PRODUCTIVITY IS A MINDSET

We are conditioned from a young age on how to work and how and when we’re supposed to be productive.

We are forced to sit at desks at school, be quiet and work until the bell rings.

We go to 9-5 jobs and expected to produce within those hours, to receive a paycheck for our work. We’re conditioned to think that when we work hard, we’ll be successful, and get paid for the hours we work.

Then when we go into business for ourselves it’s a very different situation.

We only get paid once we have produced and sold something of value. In business, productivity is less about the time we spend and more about the value we produce.

Motivating ourselves to be productive and creative for our own purposes can be challenging at times especially when we find ourselves procrastinating.

Productivity starts with the mind. It starts with what we believe is possible. What are we capable of?

When our minds are scattered, we get distracted and produce less. When we are focused, we’re able to produce more.  This is why multitasking doesn’t work. Trying to focus on multiple things at once only adds to the time it takes to complete something.

When we remove the distractions and focus on once thing at a time, that is when we’re able to create the results we want. But it all starts with how we perceive productivity in the mind.

What does being productive mean to you? Working a certain amount of hours or creating results & outcomes? Having something to show for the time you put in or putting in the time?

How productive could you be? What’s possible?

So often we dictate what is possible based on how my time we think we need to complete something. Yet, when we have a deadline, we’re able to complete something quicker than what we originally would have liked. Are we possibly giving ourselves too much time to produce something?

Here are some key areas to focus on when wanting to up-level your mindset around productivity.

Define what productive means for you.

Everyone works differently and when it comes to being a solo entrepreneur you must get to know what works for you and learn to make yourself accountable for the results you create.

Find what works for you. Trying to squeeze yourself into a square-shaped box when you’re a fluffy energy ball trying to stop yourself getting distracted with the next shiny object because you’re trying to work 9-5hours is pointless.

When are you the most productive? In the morning, afternoon or evening? Where’s your creative sweet spot? Learning to set aside your most creative tasks to the times of the day and then putting the less effort required tasks to the other times helps to support a productive mindset.

Do to-do lists or priorities?

How do you work best? Do you like ticking off a to-do list, ticking the box on Trello or working with someone to keep you accountable? Do deadlines work? How can you set yourself up better, knowing how you can keep yourself motivated?

What you focus on is what you get: Problem or solution

When we’re focused on the problem, the problem persists. Learning to manage your mind and continuously refocus your mind to finding a solution will always keep moving you forward.

And it’s all about what you’re focusing on. Are you focused on the obstacle or focused on finding a solution? Do you accept what’s happening and then work towards creating a better outcome?

Or do you get so stuck delving into frustration, anger, and fear when things get too hard?

It can be overwhelming when we find ourselves stuck and struggling to find the answer, yet this is the opportune time to manage your mind and stay focused on the goal.

“It’s not knowing what to do, it’s doing what you know.” 

~ Tony Robbins

Work towards progress, not perfection.

Perfection is an illusion. We can never actually reach it, so being able to focus on producing outcomes rather than trying to be perfect is what is going to help you progress quicker.

For the best outcomes, you need to produce the work so the world can respond to it and only then can you truly know if the outcome was a positive one.

Focus on improvement and progress, not perfection – it’s a trap and one we often can get caught in when trying to be productive.

Clarity or Confusion

Confusion is often a feeling people try to avoid yet sometimes it can lead to so much clarity. Especially when we’re learning something new or trying something for the first time. It’s ok to be confused, there is no need to label the feeling as positive or negative, it’s just a phase on the way to clarity. All successful entrepreneurs seek out clarity. Focus on it and the confusion will dissipate.

Time or results

We need to let go of the old conditioning that tells us that it’s about how much time it takes. When you find yourself thinking about how much time you’ve spent or when you’re telling someone else how much time it takes, this is a perfect opportunity to refocus your mind to look at the results.

If the results aren’t being achieved it doesn’t matter how much time you’ve spent. You don’t get paid for time when you own a business, you get paid when you produce outcomes and results.

Make sure you’re focusing on what activities bring in the money. We can get so distracted on doing all the things, getting caught up in the social media spiral and at the end of the day have produced nothing. What money-making activities can you prioritize to make sure you’re making results-focused progress?

‘Never mistake motion for action’

Pablo Picasso

LEARN TO REST NOT QUIT

When things get hard, it’s important to know when to rest not quit. Or even more important – rest not push through. With all the talk about hustling, we can often get caught on the road to burn out, trying to produce one thing after the other and never stopping to take care of ourselves.

Only being able to put in 10% of ourselves because we haven’t learned to take care of ourselves and rest is not a road to success. No outcomes are better than crap outcomes. Don’t produce mediocre results just to produce, produce amazing results with all your heart and soul. Be 100% in and I guarantee the results will be phenomenal, but you have to be at your best to be able to do that.
Take care of your health and fitness, learn to get out from behind your desk, move your body and get out in nature to recharge your batteries so you can show up fully in your life and business.

WHAT’S POSSIBLE?

So often we define what’s possible based on the past. Our brains reference the past to find evidence of what we’ve been able to achieve back then to find the confidence to believe in what we can create now. Challenge what you believe to be possible. Challenge how productive you think you can be.  Your productivity is up to you. It’s not based on the past or what someone else thinks is possible for you.

Produce more and expect more results.

Expect more from yourself and ask yourself “What if?”

What if I raised my standards? What if I worked harder and smarter? What if I produced more? What if I chose how much energy I had and how my time I allowed myself to take to produce one piece of content? What if I was quicker, smarter, more efficient?

What would be possible for me then?

What if?

101 – Up Level your Mindset

The mindset that got you here is not going to get you there.

If you want to scale and grow you cannot create up-leveled results from the actions you have taken in the past, Your past does not equal your future unless you allow it to.


How would your future self be thinking about your next steps?

To uplevel your mindset you must consider:

  • Growth is Uncomfortable
  • Expect more from yourself
  • Raise your standards
  • What do you need to improve and learn to grow?
  • Investing in yourself and your business – are your thoughts coming from a place of lack?
  • Upgrading your branding
  • Spending money on marketing
  • Quality not quantity
  • Protecting what you consume
  • Embed new beliefs
  • Asking for Feedback
  • Uncovering and overcoming your fears – Fear of success, fear of failure. fear of judgment.
  • What mindset do you need to adopt to grow to move forward?

If you don’t want your past to equal your future then you’ve got to up-level your mindset and weed out all the old thought patterns and behaviors that are no longer serving you.

Do you want to up-level your life and business?

It starts with your mindset. 

100 – Gratitude & 100 Episodes

Gratitude: the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

How easy do you find it to tap into gratitude? The power of a daily gratitude practice can expand your capacity to feel happiness and joy, improve your overall life satisfaction, our health, sleep, and mental strength.

The benefits of Gratitude:

  • Improves the quality of your relationship, fulfills our need for connection and love, promotes conflict resolution
  • Instant mood booster – feeling appreciation boosts
  • Gratitude increases mental strength
  • Improves sleep
  • Improves your physical health – Grateful people experience fewer aches and pains and report feeling healthier than other people, 
  • Blocks toxic emotions
  • Has lasting positive effects on the brain
  • Gratitude improves psychological health: Gratitude reduces negative emotions, from jealousy and anger and frustration and regret. Robert Emmons, a leading gratitude researcher, has conducted multiple studies on the link between gratitude and well-being. His research confirms that gratitude effectively increases happiness and reduces depression.
     

Gratitude practices to try:

  • Start the day with bringing to mind 3 things you’re grateful for, place your hands on your heart and feel the feelings of gratitude
  • Express your gratitude to another person
  • Write a gratitude letter once a week telling someone all the things you’re grateful for
  • End the day – Write down 3 things you’re grateful for each day. (Feel the feelings)
  • Notice the simple pleasures in life – The sun on your skin, a hot cup of coffee, a great sleep, seeing butterflies or beauty in nature, a child’s laugh

Mentioned research studies by Heart Math Institute https://www.heartmath.org/