If you want to believe in your dreams, you must first believe in yourself.

How much we believe in ourselves shows up in everything that we do. It’s in our actions, our body language, our tone of voice, our words and our thoughts. It’s one of the biggest dream killers. Lack of self-belief.

Developing self-belief should be on your to-do list alongside taking action and striving for your goals. It’s an important component in achieving you want for your life.

Having strong self-belief does not mean you become pompous, cocky or overly self-assured. It’s about knowing who you are, what you stand for and believing in your ability to overcome anything.

How do you build self-belief?

Believing in yourself starts with how you talk to yourself, your inner dialogue. Are you kind to yourself? Are you cheering yourself on when things get tough or do you berate yourself when things aren’t going your way?

Learning to support yourself with kind inner wisdom, and with the self-awareness to know what serves you and what doesn’t, helps you to build a strong growth mindset to be able to achieve anything.

Learning to talk to yourself with kindness and compassion and be your own coach, is learning to see each situation for what it is and not taking things personally. When you can see the good with the bad and choose to focus on what you can control not what is out of your control ( like what other people think of you), that is where the power of self-belief lies.

To excel at the highest level – or any level, really – you need to believe in yourself, hands down.

Stephen Curry

Who are you?

Who are you really? Are you able to express yourself freely and openly and not fear judgment? Do you know who you are – the real you?

Getting to know yourself and taking the time for internal reflection to figure out who you are as a person, and who you want to be, creates a strong sense of self which is the basis for self-belief.

Getting to know what you like, what you want for your life, what brings you joy is another important component of believing in yourself. When you know who you are, you are more likely to know what you stand for and what you’re worth.

What do you stand for?

What are your values? What’s important to you? What do you believe in? When you know what your values are and what you stand for, it is much easier to set clear boundaries, speak up for yourself and believe in what you bring to the world.

What do you stand for? Knowing who you are and what you believe in at this deeper level again strengthens your sense of self and supports your ability to stand up for yourself and speak your truth.

Building resilience to be able to overcome anything.

Taking the time to give yourself credit for what you accomplish in life sets you up to create strong self-validation so we can stop looking for it outside of ourselves and waiting for something external to validate that we are worthy. Your worth is not determined by other people, you were born worthy and you get to choose to stand in that power and own it. When you believe this to your core, then you become unstoppable.

Resilience comes from getting back up when you’ve been knocked down and I guarantee there have been many times in your past where you have found the strength to overcome insurmountable odds. Take some time to reflect on what you’ve achieved so far in your life and acknowledge the strength it took to get through it and use that to bolster your own self-belief. This helps to start building a bank of evidence to prove to yourself how strong you are and what you are capable of.

The belief in your capability also comes from acknowledging your wins. Do you celebrate your success or do you move on to the next thing before you’ve taken the time to recognize what you have achieved?

You are stronger than you think, you’ve just forgotten

everything you’ve overcome

Do hard things

Push yourself outside your comfort zone regularly. If you want to truly believe in what you can achieve, challenge yourself to try new difficult things that will prove to yourself that you are strong and worthy of your dreams.

Develop your Self-belief today.

  • Write a list of all the things you’ve achieved in the last 10 years.
  • Be kind to yourself with your inner dialogue
  • Write down your values and what you stand for
  • Recognize yourself for recent wins
  • Write down some powerful new beliefs that you’d like to adopt and recite them as affirmations every day.
  • Develop a growth mindset
  • Challenge yourself and do something difficult